Male Waters Run Deep
We have defective mythologies that ignore masculine depth of emotion...
"Still Waters Run Deep!" I often use this phrase when speaking of men. I often hear others say this phrase when speaking of men. But often I use this pharse for a purpose other people's intended affect.
And yes I do mean affect.
We both mean the man looks like nothing's going on, but I mean that if you go in, deep down, a lot is going on.
Most often I hear "still waters run deep" said to imply quiet
people have the deepest character. Generally it is employed defensively to
evoke sympathy for a family member or friend or to deflect attention from their
deficits, negative manners or anti-social behavior. Now it may be true that
quiet people often have the deepest character, but a majority of the time that
character is deeply broken or mired in the sewage of base and immoral values.
Though now commonly used to assert that a placid exterior hides a passionate
or subtle nature, historically the more negative reality prevails. As the
following fable demonstrates, formerly “still waters run deep” carried a warning
that silent people are dangerous.
A farmer
was about to cross a rushing stream which by chance had swollen with rains, and
he sought a ford. First, he tried that part of the stream which seemed quieter
and more peaceful, and he found it to be deeper than he had thought. Then he
found that place was shallower and safer where the stream flowed by with a
greater burbling of the waters. Then he said to himself, "How much more
safely can we entrust our life to the roaring waters rather than to the quiet
and noiseless waters." We are warned by this fable that there is more danger in the reserved and silent person than in a noisy, babbling enemy.
This warning reflects the nature of a deep quiet river. Contrasting a quiet
river with a small brook helps clarify the meaning. A small brook often sounds and looks noisy and bubbly and shallow. The noise and the roughness are in proportion to the
size, frequency and shape of the rocks and debris in the water. The quieter and
smoother the brook, the smoother the bottom of the stream.
Now look at the Yellowstone River. The places where the surface remains placid
often hide the most danger.
A string of railroad box cars once fell into one such stretch of the river.
The current under that placid top was so strong it carried them immediately
down and out of site. In fact a search for them revealed that the bottom could
not be reached. Between the depth of the water and the violent undercurrents
not a trace of the string of box cars has ever been found.
When the saying was first made, "Still Waters Run Deep" was used
literally. It meant smooth waters are deep because the rocks aren't near the
surface to disturb the water's surface. The saying referred to large or
channeled rivers that can be quiet and slow moving on the surface but move very
fast deep in the bottom of the river. People who are quiet but always thinking
are said to be this way.
And that is the way I use the saying - to refer to the turmoil buried
beneath the stolid surface that many misinterpret, even teach, as the mark of a
calm and deep character.
This male mythology - the quiet stoic man as controlled, strong, and thus
whole - could not be more wrong.
Men are swift streams of strong, sometimes violent emotions. Emotions that
have been stuffed away, even from themselves, and which can erupt in a violent
spray of white-water when they run into immovable barriers. Emotional currents carry
along huge boulders, old damaged box cars, where no one can see, that no one
suspects.
The strength of the male emotions scours cracks of brokenness, the gouges
and cuts of life, turning them into deep chasms, raw etched canyons, and bottomless
whirlpools hidden from view by the quiet, placid skim on the surface.
To be whole those emotions need to be acknowledged. The broken places and
whirlpools need to be broadened and healed so that the churning and cutting can
stop. The strength expended in the hidden depths needs to be carried to the
surface and channeled into the uses God planned for it in advance.
For saving and restoring of
the
image of God in each man, Jesus came and poured out his life.
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